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Just. Wow.

I used to have a blog.  I used to write almost every day.  I had a few readers…you know, cuz occasionally, I have a funny.  Somehow it all slipped away.  I haven’t written…here anyhow…in many months.  A few reasons come to mind.

I started being concerned with what other people might think.  When my blog was called “Write2B”, it was reasonably anonymous and I really didn’t care much what folks thought.  Since then I started a business, started marketing a bit on my blog and changed it to my actual name domain.  Then it mattered a little what I said and who I might offend.  I posted a couple of political opinions and a bunch of flaming and fights blew out of them.  It made me very uncomfortable here.

We moved and I fell into a bit of a depression.  I think that’s fairly common, so I don’t think I need to belabor that…but while there is some extremely FUNNY stuff that happens in Texas, I just didn’t care enough to write about it.

I worried that my husband’s ex was reading.  This came about because I figured out that MY ex’s new wife was reading.  While I don’t really care that much about the latter…the former kind of flipped me out.  She is a vindictive, evil, pseudo-Christian, hateful psychopath, and the idea of her having any knowledge about my life was…well, completely uncool.

So…some of those reasons still exist.  Some don’t.  What’s changed?

Let’s see…

I’m not depressed anymore.  I don’t have a gazillion friends here and I’m not living the high life by any stretch. But, we have settled in and found some stuff about Texas and our house that really appeal to us…so we are going with it.  We are still struggling financially because of pay cuts, plus we have a kid in college and another going through a difficult legal hassle over child custody.  We try to help them both when we can, as well as making sure my mother-in-law has what she needs on a very meager Social Security/Disability income.  But we have found a few things that are reasonably cheap [or free] and very enjoyable.  Scanning the flyers for what’s on extreme sale for the freezer…making home improvements on our own, instead of paying someone to do them…grilling at home instead of eating out.  Having coffee together in the pool.  Just sort of blooming where I’m planted, so to speak.

Um, I also started a political blog elsewhere, so I can actually write about inflammatory things elsewhere and it doesn’t have to start fights here.

Also?  I absolutely don’t give an Angora Rabbit’s furry butt whether my husband’s ex reads this or not.  We have been in an 18 month court battle to finally get her off our “payroll”.  This woman is barely in her 50′s, has a degree in Accounting or something and the youngest kid is 22 and has been out of the house for almost 5 years.  Yet she still collects $500 a month that was originally in the court order to help with “educational expenses” for her and the kids.  Unfortunately, there was never an end date set and she has taken full advantage of that fact.  What kind of “Christian” takes money that was never meant for her to live on and uses it for herself…never sending a dime to the kid who’s still in college?  Not once in 5 years.  In case you want the math, that’s nearly $30K she has stolen from her CHILD.  Nice.  In the meantime, we have bought said child a used car for college transport, paid for insurance, furniture, tuition, books, clothes…whatever she needed help with, including moving her here and helping her start over after a failed relationship…we did it.  I swear, I don’t understand how some women believe that they have a right to make a man “pay” for them when they no longer have the kids to use as a weapon and they no longer carry the title of “wife”. I wish the lawmakers would get over themselves and realize that once a marriage is over, it should be OVER.  Child support is one thing, but this is an adult who refuses to do for herself and wants to suck from a milk bottle that we provide forever. GROW UP, YOU LOSER!

OK. So. I’m back. Whether or not anyone cares…well, doesn’t matter.  But I am back.

Toasted Junk…?

I swear…there is nothing on TV to watch that you don’t hear about someone’s “junk”.

We have to see the commercials about men and their urinary problems, or worse. How many different drugs are there now to keep things down there, um…ready to roll? Who knew there was such a market for that anyhow?  Are there that many guys in this country with borked junk?

Sure, sure…we’ve been hearing way more than I want to about female issues, too.  Those women who talk to the little lady on the bathroom door need way more that something for urinary urgency.  A good shrink or some anti-psychotics, maybe.  And seriously, I am glad we are past pouring blue water into a pad on TV, but I really don’t get feel a need for a 1950′s style synchronized swimming number…especially when it has to do with birth control.  Really?  Gah.

And I know we have been subjected to more than anyone ever needs to know about John and Lorena Bobbett…something about having your junk cut off and thrown out of a moving vehicle that captures media attention.

But on Christmas Day 2009, one idiot topped them all.  “The Nigerian”, as he was referred to by two terrorist planners in a communication overheard November by CIA agents, tried to blow up a plane headed into Detroit.  How?  Well, I am glad you asked.  This guy made his UNDERWEAR into a BOMB!

A powder explosive was sewn into the crotch of his [“girlie looking” according to my DH] garment [the comments on this link are priceless]…the detonator to which apparently didn’t work very well.  He ended up catching the blanket on fire and parts of his clothing…in the process sustaining some burns that required a short hospital stay.

Of course, since we call Richard Reid [who used the same powder in his tennis shoe for his device] the “Shoe Bomber”, it stands to reason that this guy will forevermore be known as “The Underwear Bomber”.

This annoys my husband to no end.

“Anyone who tries to blow up a plane by first blowing up his crotch needs a stupider name than that.”

“You don’t think ‘the Underwear Bomber‘ is stupid enough?”


“I don’t think ‘the Underwear Bomber‘ is going to garner a lot of respect in prison.”

“Maybe not, but they need to call him something else.”

“Like what?”

“Like ‘the idiot who tried to blow up his junk‘…”

“Really? That’s awesome, honey…”

“Shut up. Maybe ‘Roasted Nuts‘ or ‘Blistered Balls‘…?”

“That’s um, more festive…works for me…”

“I got it. ‘Toasted Junk‘.”

Thanks, Farouk, you dumbass. Now I gotta hear about your junk 24/7 on every news broadcast…and probably get MY fat old lady junk blown up on some big screen full body scan next time I fly.  Very nice.  I hate terrorists. Why don’t you all go practice blowing up your junk in the desert.  I wish you much success.


Where did January go?? I swear someone stole my month!

OK, I was sick for about 3 weeks of it. That was three weeks of sneezing, nose-blowing, sinus-irrigating [yes, I did too], coughing, peeing [yes, that too], sleeping and less-than-joyous misery. And then there was a week of sort-of-half-sick-and-very-confused-trying-to-be-an-actual-well-person. So, I guess it wasn’t actually “stolen”, but rather misplaced. Still. Grrr.

Honestly, it doesn’t matter. I am so far behind on everything I feel like I will never catch up. I mean, between my businesses, my MIL, my husband, cat and daughter…cooking and what absolutely minuscule cleaning I do…errands and shopping and appointments…then there’s keeping up with e-mail and trying to do a little bit of social networking [i.e. Facebook, Twitter, this blog, etc]…not to mention trying to market my stores, create new designs, create new websites, find new income streams…also keeping up with eating better, and exercising and doing my SparkPeople journaling…

Whew! It’s no wonder I’m exhausted. CRI…and might I add…MINY!

Resolution Revolution

The last few years I haven’t really made any New Year’s resolutions. Mostly because the things I would put on the list are things I pretty much work on every day anyhow. Be healthier, lose weight, work smarter, be more successful, give more…yadda, yadda. So, no point in making a list of what I do already.

And? I’ve done OK. I’ve lost 40 pounds. I actually stopped “dieting” due to a series of family and personal issues, and apparently something has sunk in, because I haven’t gained any back. I haven’t lost any more either, but not gaining it back plus some is a major deal. I am getting ready to make another big push to lose again, kick up my workouts and see what happens.

A big part of why I think I didn’t gain it back is my use of and tracking my food and fitness there. I started out just putting down what I ate…without even trying to eat better. It showed me what choices I was making that were probably not great. As I made small changes…like drinking a can of V8 juice or water instead of soda…I saw the differences in my journal. I was able to click more fruits & veggies on my tracker and more water clicks, too. I started looking forward to adding stuff to my trackers and started working out, kinda to be able to track it. Dumb reason, but whatever works. And it did work. I worked out more and ate better and started losing. One more thing to change in my SparkPeople tracker…lost pounds on my customized ticker. It’s great. Best part is that it’s free. There are ads, sure, but I don’t care. It’s a great program. They give you the option of putting in your own foods and planning your own workouts, or being on “autopilot” and following their plan for food and workouts. Workout videos and scads of articles, recipes, etc…all available on the site. Lots of support from folks on teams and forums for just about any geographic area or interest you might have, too. Did I mention it’s free?

Of course, it’s not for everyone. I haven’t figured out how it is that some things work for one person and not for another. Sure, actually doing it makes a big difference. But, if that’s a given, you should be able to quantify results. And you can’t.

Programs advertised on TV, like Nutrisystem and Weight Watchers, have great programs…people have lost weight on them, right? Then why do they always have the disclaimer “Results Not Typical” when they are bragging about those folks who lost weight?? I lost 40 pounds on my own…so if losing 45 on a program isn’t “typical”, what in the world are they charging people for? What’s the point of paying for a program if they don’t have typical results of at least 40 pounds? Jeez. I just don’t get it.

Anyhow. Whatever your resolutions are this year, good luck with them. I am revolting against the resolving. No resolutions for me. I will continue to do what I’ve been doing. Starting with laughing. Ya gotta laugh.

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Happy New Year!

Holy Cow, Guys…

I have lost the will to write. LOL Not really. I think blog posts all the time, but somehow that doesn’t get them here…to the actual blog.

Maybe I’m just having a really mundane life. Maybe I am boring. I don’t know. I stopped working on my shop for awhile, too. But I am back on that and will work on blogging too. Boring or not, here I come!

So here’s the deal! I want to recruit you [YES! YOU!] to my lending team, Friends of Write2B, on Kiva, a non-profit website that allows you to lend as little as $25 to a specific low-income entrepreneur in the developing world. You choose who to lend to – whether a baker in Afghanistan, a goat herder in Uganda, a farmer in Peru, a restaurateur in Cambodia, or a tailor in Iraq – and as they repay the loan, you get your money back.

If you join my lending team, we can work together to alleviate poverty. Once you’re a part of the team, you can choose to have a future loan on Kiva “count” towards our team’s impact. The loan is still yours, and repayments still come to you – but you can also choose to have the loan show up in our team’s collective portfolio, so our team’s overall impact will grow!

I am impressed with this project because these folks are working…they aren’t asking for a handout. It’s a loan. The default rate is low. Of the $17,345,885 of loans with completed loan terms, the default rate is 3.1%. But I am looking at it as charity to a certain extent, because once it’s paid back I will likely loan it out again. And since there is a risk of default anytime you loan, I will not give money that will put me at risk. But I feel like I should do what I can.

So. We loan because we can…because someone loaned to us when we needed it. Or because no one did and we know how it feels. I have been in both situations and I know the desperation of not finding help…as well as the extreme gratitude when someone goes above and beyond to get you past a rough spot. If you’ve ever been in that spot and can help someone now, check it out on any of the links in this post or the link in my sidebar. Over there —>

Thanks for considering this…

Knee Mail

Can we spend one minute each night to save ourselves?

This is the scariest election we as Christians have ever faced. Christians need to vote Christian values. We all need to be on our knees. Do you believe we can take God at His word? Call upon His name, then stand back and watch His wonders to behold. His scripture gives us, as Christians, ownership of this land and the ability to call upon God to heal it. I challenge you to do so. We have never been more desperate than now for God to heal our land.

2 Chronicles 7:14 : If my people, which are called by my name shall humble themselves, and pray, and seek my face and turn from their wicked ways, then will I hear from heaven, and will forgive their sin, and will heal their land.

During WWII, there was an advisor to Churchill who organized a group of people who dropped what they were doing every night at a prescribed hour for one minute to collectively pray for the safety of England, its people and peace. This had an amazing effect as bombing stopped.

There is now a group of people organizing the same thing here in America. The United States of America and our citizens need prayer more than ever!

If you would like to participate:

Each evening at 9:00 PM Eastern Time, 8:00 PM Central, 7:00 PM Mountain, 6:00 PM Pacific, stop whatever you are doing and spend one minute praying for the safety of the United States, our troops, our citizens, for peace in the world, for wisdom and courage for our leaders, the up-coming election, and that the Bible will remain the basis for the laws governing our land and that Christianity will grow in the U.S.

Someone said if people really understood the full extent of the power we have available through prayer, we might be speechless. Our prayers are the most powerful asset we have. Thank you.

It's a Prayer Thing!

If you know anyone who would like to participate, please pass this link along. God Bless You!!!


I am a Republican. Not “brainwashed”, as I have seen some put it…I actually have my own opinions and they do not always follow “party lines”. Heck, maybe I’m a Maverick.


A friend of mine…and yes, I have liberal friends…was completely annoyed with me when I wrote a post about Sarah Palin. She said, “I don’t dislike her, I just don’t want her running the United States of America…..I do not want her to be our President and I do not want her living in the White House.” Another one wrote and said, “I can’t believe you are OK with her being one heartbeat away from the Presidency.” Listening to the View too much, methinks.

Here’s something people should know about Palin:

Question: What is America ‘s first line of missile interceptor defense that protects the entire United States?
Answer: 49th Missile Defense Battalion of Alaska National Guard.

Question: What is the ONLY National Guard unit on permanent active duty?
Answer: 49th Missile Defense Battalion of Alaska National Guard.

Question: Who is the Commander in Chief of the 49th Missile Defense Battalion of Alaska National Guard?
Answer: Governor Sarah Palin, Alaska.

Question: What U.S. governor is routinely briefed on highly classified military issues, homeland security, and counter terrorism?
Answer: Governor Sarah Palin, Alaska.

Question: What U.S. governor has a higher classified security rating than either candidate of the Democrat Party?
Answer: Governor Sarah Palin, Alaska.

According to the Washington Post, she first met with McCain in February, but nobody ever found out. This is a woman used to keeping secrets. She can be entrusted with our national security, because she already is.

Anyhow, here’s the deal…Obama scares me to death. See, if he wins, it will be for all the wrong reasons. Black folks think he’s black. He’s not, he’s of multi-racial decent…african, mostly caucasian, maybe some native american, rumor has it some arab, maybe. Who cares? To vote for someone because they’re a certain race, or not, even if they are in NO WAY READY for the position, is just plain dumb.

Voting for someone just because they say they will change things is also just dumb. He has not said what exactly he’s going to change. For all we know he’s going to make things worse. Lord knows our Democratic congress hasn’t done such a great job. One more Democrat in that mix doesn’t seem like much of a solution. More taxes don’t sound like a fix to me either. Running businesses out of the country won’t be a good change.

The “one heartbeat” thing annoys me, too. Obama’s parents died pretty young. And he smokes. Not good odds on him. If he dies, Biden is president. Biden has run for president twice. Obviously not a popular choice, so why on earth would we want him to be there if Obama died? Also. He has had two brain surgeries. He doesn’t know when the depression was and that there was no television then. What else is he confused about? If he dies…Nancy Pelosi is president. Seriously? SHE is scarier to me than Hilary. Good grief.

McCain’s Mom is 95. She’s a twin, both sisters are still alive, completely alert, driving and traveling all over. 95! I think based on that, we need not worry about Palin getting into office by default. We should be more concerned about the other ticket in that respect.

One friend also told me it wasn’t just her and I should go watch the Matt Damon video about Sarah Palin on YouTube. Matt Damon might just be among the hundred or so “celebrities” that I will never look to for my opinions on political or common sense issues. On the other hand, there are folks I agree with. Thank goodness.

To me, this guy makes good sense:


It’s not about Obama’s race, it’s about policies
Special to The Star
January 11, 2008. Ross Balano for Midwest Voices.

Where’s the change?

For all the talk of change coming from the Democratic side, what few specifics I hear sound strikingly the same as what we have come to expect from Democrats.

Let’s see: raise taxes, more and bigger government programs, no drilling in ANWR, etc. … What’s new about that? That’s same, not change.

Barack Obama thinks these are the things the American people want. If that’s true, then why isn’t Obama running away with this election?

Some would tell you it’s because too many of us are stupid and bitter people who cling to our guns and God. Others, including Kansas Gov. Kathleen Sebelius, suggest that race has something to do with it.

So the race card has been played again this election; nothing new about that either. Democrats do it every election cycle. But I thought Obama was supposed to transcend race.

Now again, if you aren’t liberal, you must be some kind of racist, right? After all, there’s no other reason why anyone would not vote for Obama, correct?

So let me get this straight. With apologies to Jeff Foxworthy:

If you don’t want higher taxes, you might be a racist.

If you think we should drill for more domestic oil, you could be a racist.

If you believe we should secure the borders, you might be a racist.

If you believe in the right to keep and bear arms, the sanctity of life or winning the war on terror, you just might be a racist.

Heck, if you don’t vote for Obama, you must be a racist.

I, for one, am tired of this old routine.

Let me be very clear: The problems with Obama have nothing to do with the color of his skin. Rather, it has to do with positions, beliefs and associations and the lack of any substantial experience that would qualify him to be president.

Do we really want higher taxes even if he claims it will only be on the rich? How will raising taxes on the rich put more money in your pocket? Hint: It won’t.

In my adult life there have been two major tax cuts — Reagan in the early ’80s, and George W. Bush earlier in this decade. Both tax cuts resulted in more money coming in to the Treasury, not less.

We must secure our borders. We must drill for oil in this country wherever it is located so that we can lessen our dependence on foreign oil until new technology can be developed.

We must stay vigilant and strong against terrorism. We must cut government spending. We need constructionist judges who won’t destroy our constitution by distorting it to fit political views.

These would be real changes. Obama stands against all of these things. And he stood up for sex education in kindergarten and against protecting babies born alive as a result of botched abortions.

Is this the kind of “change we need”? I think not.

Ross Balano of Kansas City is a former business owner and current national accounts manager in the security and fire alarm field. To reach Midwest Voices columnists, write to the author c/o the Editorial Page, The Kansas City Star.

That’s what I’m talking about.